Role of love and esteem in childhood

It’s almost common sense that the amount of independence that you’re capable of in adulthood is directly related to the amount of love and esteem you were given as a child from people who esteemed you for yourself, as opposed to for anything that you did.

You know, whenever you see a very robust individual who seems not to care what others are thinking of them, probably there’s somebody who early on said to them, it doesn’t matter what everybody thinks. You’re my prize little bunny. And they were three years old.

And it stuck and it gave them a kind of psychological armour which has lasted them in to adulthood. Tremendously valuable.